► Are you flirting with the idea of having an affair or have you started one? Are you spending inordinate amount of time on your computer engaged in online chats with strangers?
► Do you have a desperate desire the freedom and independence, regardless of how it impacts others? Are you seeking adventure, but not sure where to find it?
► Are you acting recklessly, like driving your car too fast or engaging in other impulsive behaviors like you may have as a teenager? Are you dressing like your much younger daughter? Spending a lot of time with people half your age?
► Have you gained a lot of weight? Are you binging on junk food? Have you lost a lot of weight, lost interest in food or gone on crash diets? Are you obsessively exercising?
► Are you drinking too much, often by yourself?
► Are you overusing prescription or recreational drugs?
► Are you obsessing about your appearance, trying to 'anti-age' and overdoing it on cosmetic procedures or plastic surgery to look younger?
► Do you find yourself looking in the mirror and think, I don't recognize myself?
► Have you been feeling down or empty for long periods of time with no relief? (This is different than mood swings, which come and go.)
► Do you get enraged over small things or have violent outbursts with your family and friends? (Again, this is not the same as feeling irritable on and off.)
► Do you feel detached? Have you stopped engaging in activities that once gave you pleasure with your mate, friends or at work? Do you find hobbies that use to interest you now feel meaningless or boring?
► Do you find yourself constantly thinking about your mortality, the meaning (or meaninglessness) of life?
► Are you deeply dissatisfied with your relationship? Have you cut off emotionally and physically from your mate?
► Are you thinking of quitting your job or fantasizing about never working again, even if you can't afford to retire?
► Does the life you envision ahead exclude the people or activities you are currently attached to?
► If you were once religious, are you questioning your beliefs? Are you seeking a deeper connection to spirituality? Do 'new wave' religious groups or cults interest you?
► Do you keep thinking about running away or taking a break even if you have responsibilities that keep you from doing so? For example, is it hard to imagine finding satisfaction in being a mother or wife anymore?
► Change in eating habits
► Change in sleeping habits, fatigue
► Feelings of pessimism or hopelessness
► Restlessness, anxiety or irritability
► Feeling of guilt, helplessness or worthlessness
► Loss of interest in activities once enjoyed, including sex and hobbies
► Thoughts of suicide or attempts at suicide
► Physical aches or pains such as headaches or gastrointestinal upset that don't respond to treatment.
You should forecast your new career income stream. This new income stream has to replace your current pay. Ask yourself: Do you really can handle the financial and other obstacles until seeing the fruits and benefits?
Certainly, there will be several reasons that you did not pursue the profession that you wanted to at a time.
There may even be some financial reasons, like the fact that the profession would not be financially viable at the time. For example, game designing today is one of the most lucrative professions, but just twenty years ago the resources needed to make a computer game were quite humongous. it is the evolution of the Internet and computer technology that has made it possible for the profession of gaming to be so lucrative.
In the same way, the enhancements of other aspects may make the something that was not viable twenty years ago to be viable today. Only after proper research should you think about the financial viability of your mid life job change.
You have worked your whole life for some reason and now you wish to work for something else.
And it is quite difficult, because learning anything at the age of forty or fifty is quite difficult. Therefore, make sure that you are really interested in the profession. Your interest and genuine enthusiasm to change your profession will make it easier to handle the learning curve of the abilities and skills that you should have for the different job.
You desire a progress. Your have high expectation and want to get new opportunities. You have already worked hard your way up the career ladder. However, you feel ready and confident for a career movement and a career change.
You remain at your job because the money is good but you don't like your job. Your job may be 'good enough' but your interests are different - You want to do something completely different.
Potentially good. Ultimately, the mid-life crisis is about managing change of one kind or another, and as millions of older men can testify, there lies a fresh perspective and new satisfactions on the other side of the transition. Never suffer in silence: always ask for help if you need it, and explore every avenue. And remember: life can begin at any age.
If the debate on the existence of the male menopause is heated, TRT has caused even more controversy. This treatment involves administering doses of extra testosterone through patches, injections, pills or creams to those suffering male-menopausal symptoms.
► Finding better ways of tackling stress. Try to avoid the temptation to use alcohol, nicotine or other drugs to relieve it. Instead, try some de-stressing treatments and exercises. Many complementary approaches, such as aromatherapy, massage and yoga, can all have a powerful relaxing effect. Self-hypnosis tapes, meditation and other "mindful" techniques which help you to switch off can be useful too. The effects of exercise in promoting positive moods and reducing mild depression are well-documented.
► Accepting that you're no longer young and that you're not immortal. The journey from youth to middle age and on into old age may seem frightening and painful, but you can also see it as an opportunity to re-evaluate and perhaps change the direction of your life. Rather than believing that ageing is simply about having to give things up, try to think about what you'd like to start. When you reach 60, you could still be only two-thirds of the way through your life. That leaves a great deal of time to broaden your interests, travel, return to education, learn new work skills or take up new sports.
► Some doctors argue that the crisis of confidence and the unpleasant mid-life symptoms some men experience are not primarily psychological in origin. While there may be common psychological problems arising as a reaction to life events and the consequences of getting older, they argue for the existence of a "male menopause" involving hormonal changes in the body, analogous to the female menopause.
► The male menopause has been defined by its proponents as the hormonal, physiological and chemical changes which occur in men between around 40 and 55.
► Opponents of the male menopause theory don't deny that testosterone levels fall steadily with age or that SHBG levels may rise. What they do say, however, is that these changes aren't sufficient to produce any noticeable symptoms in the vast majority of men.
► While the Reggie Perrin stereotype is richly comic, it isn't difficult to see that in real-life cases such drastic behavior may be motivated by deeper issues that are all too serious. Many of us are aware of feelings of disillusionment and irritability setting in in middle age, attributable perhaps to a heightened sense of our own mortality and/or feelings of dissatisfaction at the way life has turned out. Very often such gloomy insights are brought on by a specific trigger: a redundancy or divorce, perhaps, or a more trivial event like a milestone birthday.
► Many men find the changes in sexual function which come with getting older unsettling.
► By middle age, men may have achieved most of their realistic goals and be unclear about their future direction. Relationships may also change, and are often adversely affected, especially when children leave the parental home.
► Men are better educated, healthier and likely to live longer when they enter mid-life than at any time in the past. This can lead to a greater degree of reflection, and often, introspection, on what has happened during the first part of life and what the future holds.
► Sleep may be another factor.
Not only is the existence of the mid-life crisis questionable, those who believe it exists also disagree about the causes. Is it psychological, even sociological, in origin? Or hormonal? Or a bit of both?
► Some experts argue that men are at risk of suffering the symptoms of mid-life crisis from the age of 30, although the period from the late 30s to age 50 is generally nearer the mark for most.
► The proportion of men who experience emotional difficulties during mid-life is unknown. A few psychologists argue that almost all men go through a mid-life crisis to some degree - they all have to deal with what is a time of transition and adjust to a new perspective on life.
► Classically, any man for whom work is his main source of personal identity, or who starts to feel or show his age, is a strong candidate.
► There is some evidence that men most affected by the mid-life crisis are those who have given little thought to such inevitable upheavals as ageing and retirement. Studies have shown that the condition is associated with a tendency to avoid problems and an uncertainty about the future.
► On the other hand, it's also the case that many men seem to pass through this stage of life without any apparent difficulties at all.
► Loss of libido
► Erectile dysfunction
► Stiffness in the muscles and joints
► Night sweats
► Dry skin
► Hair loss
► Weight gain
► A loss of ability to recover quickly from injuries
A controversial condition or syndrome which some doctors and psychologists thinks affects many men in their 30s, 40s and 50s. Some believe it has mainly psychological causes while others argue that it's related to hormonal changes. Other health professionals argue that there's no such condition, however, and that the symptoms often associated with mid-life crisis have other causes.
The fastest it evolves is 2 years with expert guidance as I provide. Otherwise, it tends to process over 5-6 years in 1-3 year cycles with each cycle being a new fad. Each fad representing the greatest new thing to overcome and make your own. Lots of crashing and burning and changes etc.
It's a very common situation in mid life crisis to feel trapped in a job. Of course you don't have to be in mid life crisis to feel trapped in a job either. Finding a job that fits one's soul isn't easy especially since most people only work to make money rather than trying to work in harmony to their essence.
► Extend how long you are at the current job without driving yourself insane
► Learn the lessons needed so you don't repeat the mistakes of this job within your next job.
► Begin retraining yourself while in the current job to begin creating the next job that does fit to your essence.
You would be surprised, but many people in midlife crisis often get a strong desire to become healers, to aid others and help people who are down in their luck. It is great to help others and to be kind in this process.
You must also be kind to yourself.
Hitting bottom in Midlife crisis typically occurs in 3 steps. For many this occurs over a 2 to 4 year time frame to truly hit bottom. The real issue is that people often have more to release than they realize. Some people can actually linger an entire lifetime in this process, especially when they refuse to let go of the various issues that hamper the truer growth process they are within. This is why getting help can be so important, since an outside perspective is often the easiest way to remove your own self imposed bottlenecks for growth.
They know the old you like no one else.. They are clueless about the new you and in fact any revealing of the new you would probably cause conflict in the relationship due to their judgement of what you should be got set when you first got married. So for you to grow into something new, you will only invoke judgement from them in trying to grow into someone new.
Case by case really. There isn't a "right" path here. Generally speaking you work towards graceful answers that embrace kindness. Kindness is to be in your essence and this means balancing out your actions relative to your essence accordingly. Kindness isn't to be nice, at times it might align up that way but to be in your essence usually leads to traveling some hard and twisted roads in the attempt to balance everything out.
Mid Life Crisis is a natural part of life. This really is a time when a person gets to change into something they truly want to be in life.
The sad truth is: many people do not know what they want to be or often force themselves to be something different than what their essence calls out for them to be.
Mid Life Transformation is a normal part of life. As a natural part of life it takes several years for it to fully complete. It's a choice on how to grow and become more. The process doesn't have to be a crisis but many people do make it a crisis: by forcing it or rushing into it all too fast.
From all the stories from what people do, it may seem to be an experience to avoid but avoiding your own nature will actually promote a deeper crisis later.
What is it? It's a time when your body, mind and spirit are all are trying to mature into a strong integrated independent person. If you approach this time without judgement, with patience, practicing awareness and taking time to grow to your heart: it can be the most wonderful time in a person's life also.
Just as I have dealt with subordinates and peers in the past. Of course, I will learn from them when I can and take their suggestions if valid. But I will also demonstrate that my experience and knowledge is transferable to this industry.
You may not know yet - so say that but follow it with "but here is what I know about your company... How accurate am I?" If you do know why you want to work for this company it will usually relate to one of three areas - the company (reputation, high-profile, growth, offering of ground-floor opportunities), the position (variety, pace, technical orientation, scope of authority) or the people (personality match). Always articulate what you can do for the company, not what the company can do for you.
That is true, but I do have... Give examples. Again, relating your skills to the position. Keep the interviewer's attention focused on the real issue - your ability to do the job.
While I have never been in this industry, I will be using the same abilities and skills to solve problems, meet deadlines and manage people that were needed in my previous positions. For example, (give examples of your abilities which form a connecting link between your skills in previous jobs and the one in which you are being interviewed).
Drinking alcohol poses special concerns for women. A woman who drinks the same amount as a man is affected more. This is because her body contains less water to dilute the alcohol and her stomach has less of the key enzyme that digests it. When you drink, the alcohol slows your reflexes and affects your judgment and memory. One important reason why perimenopausal women should watch their drinking is that alcohol interferes with bone growth and calcium absorption.
Women who smoke shorten their lives by five to eight years. They also increase their risk of osteoporosis. Smoking doubles the risk of heart disease and cancer of the cervix and vulva in women, and multiplies the risk of lung cancer 12 times. Even the children of smokers can be affected by being exposed to secondhand smoke.
Weight gain is not so much a result of meno-pause as of middle age. About one in four women aged 35 to 64 years is overweight. Metabolism slows as you age, so your body takes longer to burn up the food you eat. Women have about 25 percent body fat, compared with 15 percent for men. This extra fat makes it easier for women to gain weight and harder to lose it.
In general, it's best not to exceed weight guidelines for your height.
Making exercise a part of your life can pay off in many ways. Exercise can help you lose weight and keep it off. Aerobic exercises help protect against heart disease and diabetes, and weight-bearing exercises help prevent osteoporosis.
To get a good cardiovascular workout, you need to exercise at your target heart rate for 30 minutes or more most days of the week.
In short, exercise makes you look and feel better.
Eating a healthy diet will help you look and feel better. It also will lower your risk of osteoporosis and heart disease.
As with any treatment, HT is not risk free. Estrogen therapy causes the lining of the uterus to grow and can increase the risk of uterine cancer. However, adding progestin lowers the risk of uterine cancer to less than that in women who do not take HT.
In women who take HT, spotty bleeding may occur. Some women even get heavier bleeding like that of a menstrual period.
There is an increased risk of breast cancer in women who use combined hormone therapy. The increase appears to be small, but increases depending on how long a women takes hormone therapy. Hormone therapy also modestly increases the risk of heart attack, stroke and blood clots.
One benefit of HT that women are likely to notice right away is the relief from symptoms. For about 98 percent of women who take estrogen, hot flushes are relieved. Estrogen also treats vaginal dryness and irritation. Women who take estrogen have fewer urinary problems, such as infection and incontinence.
Hormone therapy also has been shown to help keep bones strong, which helps prevent osteoporosis. However, it only protects bones for as long as you use it.
With HT, you are given estrogen to replace the estrogen your body is no longer making. If you have never had a hysterectomy and, therefore, still have a uterus, you normally are given progestin, as well. This helps reduce the risk of cancer of the lining of the uterus that occurs when estrogen is used alone.
Estrogen often is prescribed as a pill you take daily or a patch you wear on your skin. Estrogen also is available as a vaginal ring.
Oral contraceptives (birth control pills) also contain estrogen and progestin, but in higher doses. During perimenopause, oral contraceptives offer birth control and help regulate the menstrual cycle. They may be used during perimenopause before HT.
The best thing you can do to get through midlife's rough spots is reach out for help. Talking with others is reassuring. If you open up to a friend, you may find she is facing the same fears and stresses.
If you are bothered by unsteady emotions or mental lapses, talk to your doctor.
Losses, new demands and changes in routines are common at midlife. Your children may be entering their teen years - a time of challenges.
Today, many women wait to start a family until they are around 40 years of age. Becoming a new mother at midlife - no matter how joyful an event - is a big adjustment.
Women who have not had children or never married also face changes of midlife.
Despite these challenges, midlife often is still a rewarding phase of life.
The constant change of hormone levels during perimenopause can effect a woman's emotions. Some women have mood swings, memory lapses and poor concentration. Some may feel irritable or are depressed.
Heart disease kills more women than any other cause of death. After menopause, a woman's risk of heart disease and stroke increases. Women who have not reached menopause have a far lower risk of cardiovascular disease than men. The estrogen produced by women's ovaries before menopause protects them from heart attacks and stroke. When less estrogen is made after menopause, women lose much of this protection. The risk of heart attack and stroke then increases.
Once made, bone is always changing. Old bone is removed in a process called resorption, and new bone is formed in a process called formation. From childhood until age 30 years, bone is formed faster than it is broken down. After age 30 years, the process begins to reverse: bone is broken down faster than it is made. However, bone loss that happens too fast can result in osteoporosis. Osteoporosis causes bones to become too thin and weak.
To prevent osteoporosis, you should focus on building and keeping as much bone as you can before menopause. You can do that by getting plenty of calcium and exercise.
Perimenopausal women may have to deal with sleep problems. Night sweats may disrupt your rest. You may have insomnia (trouble falling asleep), or you may be awake long before your usual time.
As you approach menopause, you may start having hot flushes (also known as hot flashes). About 75 percent to 85 percent of perimenopausal women get them. These flushes are the most common symptom of perimenopause.
A hot flush is a sudden feeling of heat that rushes to the upper body and face. The skin may redden like a blush. You may break out in a sweat. A hot flush may last from a few seconds to several minutes or longer.
Hot flushes can happen anytime - day or night. Those occurring during sleep, called night sweats, may wake you up and leave you tired and sluggish the next day. Even though hot flushes are a nuisance, are sometimes embarrassing, and may interfere with daily life, they are not harmful.
In your 40s, increasing and decreasing hormone levels can cause changes in your menstrual cycle. These changes can be erratic.
Although changes in bleeding are normal as you near menopause, they still should be reported to your doctor. Abnormal bleeding can sometimes be a sign of other problems.
Menopause is sometimes called "the change of life." It marks the end of menstrual periods and of your childbearing years. On average, the age at which American women have their last menstrual period is 51 years.
Perimenopause and menopause are natural events.
Your body changes at midlife, too. Around your mid-40 s, you enter a transition phase called perimenopause. It is a time of gradual change leading up to and following menopause. In general, perimenopause extends from age 45 years to age 55 years, although the timing varies among women. During this time, the ovaries produce less estrogen.
Midlife often is called "the prime of life".
Be sure to write down your stories or notes about them to refer to in the intensity of the interview without anxiety. The more you can think through the situations you'll be discussing before the actual interview, the more you'll be able to mine the experiences for relevant details which related to the job at hand.
When thinking about situations to discuss in the interview, do not limit yourself to work experiences. If you've returned to school recently, or taken additional training courses, think about how you behaved in situations you encountered there. Or if you've volunteered or participated in community or political activities, maybe you applied your knowledge or skills in a way that reveals your abilities that related to the job you're interviewing for. These are often resources when changing job fields.
Interviewers are looking for up-to-date skills, especially in their older workers. What did you learn from your experiences, both positive and negative? What might you do differently if the same problem presented itself?
When preparing for the interview, identify the skills and activities you'll be using in the new job. How are they related to skills and activities you used in the past? Think of some specific instances where you excelled - three to five should be enough.
An emotional period of doubt and anxiety sometimes experienced by people who realize that their life is already half over.