Without being assertive and letting others know of your skills and accomplishments, you will miss out many opportunities. Since no one is perfect, you will make mistakes occasionally. Own up to them and learn from them, then move on.
Even if you mess up once in a while, you will be respected far more for giving it your best shot than by not trying at all. As Wayne Gretzky, the hockey player said, You'll always miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
Assertiveness promotes self-confidence as you learn to make better decisions for yourself and increase the chances that you will get what you want from your life. It maximizes your sense of control of your life and your emotions as you learn to appropriately express your concerns instead of bottling up those concerns. Aside from personal benefits,
assertiveness has a direct positive effect on your relationships. When you are appropriately assertive in your relationships, you will find that others respect you, that conflict is minimized, that others trust you because you have established boundaries and certainty about what to expect. Assertiveness with others increases the chances that they will give you honest and genuine feedback that will help you grow in your own life as
well. Assertive behaviors also allow others to grow because you are able to give them open and honest feedback.
Things to look for: Does the job seeker seem to have the ability to solve this issue? What steps would they take? Does the thought of a personality conflict intimidate them? Do they seem confrontational or quietly assertive?
Being assertive and let people know you are clever and skilled is not being immodest or egocentric. Sometimes you have to toot your own horn, so to speak, and there is nothing wrong with that. If you do not do it, who will? Sometimes being modest is not a good thing. It makes you sound like you cannot say anything positive about yourself. It also indicates that you cannot give or receive compliments.
It is unfortunate that assertive women often have more trouble at work than their male counterparts. However, that should not stop any woman from standing up for herselfin the workplace. If you possess the skills necessary for the job and have the experience and the drive, you can assert yourself and get what you want. A woman in a management position may find herself walking in a fine line. She must be assertive in order to do her job, but may be thought of as pushy or unfeminine when she does. Oddly enough, studies done on this topic showed that the criticism came mostly from other women, not the menin the workplace . Someone once said that we should learn to live without the good opinions of others. If your career is important to you, you will have to learn to beassertive and be selective about considering other peoples opinions.